a-verefiducia:

For some reason I had an urge to make this post. Sometimes it’s easier to talk with people via other means of communication (like over the internet) rather than face to face. I’d like to think that this speaks for most people with an anxiety disorder, however it’s based on my perspective, so I’m sure there are some parts that are disagreed with. Here it goes. 

1. “It’ll be fine” or “just relax” doesn’t work

Neither does “calm down”. The things that you find to be completely normal and free of concern can be involuntarily perceived by us as threatening in some way, often for reasons which are difficult for us to determine for ourselves, let alone explain to you. We usually know when our fears are irrational, but telling us that everything is fine doesn’t always alter our perspectives to favour logic. Also, don’t dare to tell us that our feelings aren’t justified – the fact that our anxieties are often irrational is probably the one thing we hear the most, and guess what? More often than not, it has no effect.

2. We’re not always going to tell you that we’re feeling anxious about a situation or that we’re uncomfortable.

If you somehow catch wind of our feelings, just accept it and don’t badger us about it later on. There’s plenty of stigma associated with anxiety and it’s hard to blatantly tell you that we’re having irrational concerns, regardless of how close our bond is with you. Sometimes, we might even lie about why we failed to follow through with a commitment because we’d rather have you feel disappointed in us than feel like we’re weak and being pitied. Sorry, we’re trying.  

3. We’ll probably be this way forever

Most of us wish we weren’t this way. No one wishes we were ‘normal’ more than what we do. But, we may never fit the typical description of ‘normal.’ If you feel that that is something you’re unable to accept and properly cope with, that’s fine, but please leave. Don’t give us the false sense of security of having somebody that will ‘always be there’. It’s a part of who we are, alongside our personality, appearance and name.

4. It’s not easy

There are days when we come home feeling like a total and utter failure because we couldn’t follow through with something. Sometimes we can watch 100 other people do something that seems fool-proof and yet, we can’t do it. It’s not because we’re lazy or can’t be bothered – there’s just something going on in our heads that it rendering it physically impossible for us to do. Often it’s hard as hell to not feel shit about that. Please understand.

5. Its physically tiring

Our minds are constantly in overdrive. We’re always busy worrying, stressing, analysing and overthinking. And once we’ve done all that, then we start worrying, stressing, analysing and overthinking. Even when you think we’re in a state of pure peacefulness, chances are, we’re probably not. Sorry if a portion of your time with us now seems like a lie.

6. Listen to us

It’s often hard to express our feelings and we tend to avoid it, but if we do come to you to confide in, just listen without judgement. We know your intentions are good and that you have a good heart (otherwise we wouldn’t come to you), but sometimes the things you say make things worse. However, know that we do and always will appreciate your effort.

7. We know it’s hard for you too

And that’s the hardest part. If we can’t make it easier for ourselves, how are we supposed to make it easier for the people around us that are only trying to help? Sometimes we turn down talking about our feelings, even when you make the first move and offer to listen. We’re not trying to be difficult – we just don’t like feeling like we are burdening you.

8. We get repetitive

Sometimes we ask the same question over and over, or ask questions that seem pointless or irrelevant in order to gain clarification and reassurance. We also say sorry a lot. Sorry.

ejakeulati0n:

ejakeulati0n:

so i was in choir today and this dude wouldn’t get away from the piano but i needed to find my starting pitch so i told him to play me a d and he didn’t listen to me so i yelled “I NEED THE D, CARL” and then i realized what i said

hey y’all

i got carl to give me the d

(via dulect)